When to Say, “I Love You,” According to a Therapist

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Relationship problems are one of the main reasons people seek out therapy. And there is no time in our lives more complicated than the beginning stages of a romantic relationship. Our goal is usually aimed at doing everything we can to maintain the relationship.

We spend a lot of energy trying not to scare the other person away, right? In the early stages of a relationship, we often find ourselves walking on eggshells. Sometimes we hide our true opinions and feelings in an effort to keep the peace. This can leave us confused about when we should say, “I love you”.

What if this scares your new boo away? What if you come off as “needy” or “desperate”? What if they don’t say it back?! Continue reading When to Say, “I Love You,” According to a Therapist

How Can Families Reunite After Trump’s Victory Split Them Apart?

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Before the 2016 election, writer Michael Noker was “incredibly close” with his mother. He saw her as a role model because of her strength, feminism and history of overcoming abuse. Before he came out as gay, his mother was already teaching him the importance of respecting members of the LGBT community.

Then he learned she was voting for Donald Trump. Because of Hillary Clinton’s persecution of her husband’s accusers during his sex scandal, his mother didn’t perceive Clinton as a more feminist choice than Trump. She was also disappointed with Obamacare and seemed to want a new leader who would change it.

When Noker told her about Trump’s comments on the infamous tape with Billy Bush, she dismissed them as “probably taken out of context.” He also informed her of the many sexual assault allegations Trump faced. She dismissed them as well, saying it was suspicious that women were coming forward so many years after the purported incidents. Continue reading How Can Families Reunite After Trump’s Victory Split Them Apart?

We Need to Talk About Intimate Partner Violence in LGBT Relationships

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Most often when people discuss the impact and dynamics in domestic violence [DV] relationships, they assume the victim is a woman and the perpetrator a male. This discounts the experience of many people across the country and world who identify as LGBT or are male victims of intimate partner violence [IPV]. Intimate partner violence can occur in the context of any relationship pairing, although the media would lead you to believe only straight women can be victims. Continue reading We Need to Talk About Intimate Partner Violence in LGBT Relationships

Mental Health Problems Bisexual Men and Women Deal With

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Bisexual people are underrepresented and discriminated against, even within the LGBT community. Because of biphobia and other mental health problems bisexual men and women deal with, they are more likely to develop a mental illness and less likely to come out than gay men and lesbian women. They also have the highest rates of abuse in intimate relationships.

If you identify as bisexual or are considering identifying as bisexual, this article will help you navigate potential mental health issues and better understand current ones. It is also a valuable resource for people who want to support the bisexual community and encourage acceptance of bisexual people within the LGBT community. Continue reading Mental Health Problems Bisexual Men and Women Deal With

The Mental Health Issues Lesbian Women Cope With

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Lesbian women face unique mental health issues — in addition to the ones all members of the LGBT community face — because they exist in a marginalized section of an already marginalized community. Exploring the effects of discrimination and prejudice only scratches the surface of their mental health challenges. To dig deeper, take a look at the issues in this article. Continue reading The Mental Health Issues Lesbian Women Cope With

The Mental Health Issues Gay Men Deal With

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The mental health issues gay men are more likely to deal with go beyond discrimination and stigma. To fully understand how their sexual orientation impacts their mental health, we need to examine existential crises, family problems, stereotypes, the effects of the LGBT community and much more. All of these issues make gay men more likely to develop a mental illness or die by suicide.

Keep reading if you are interested in supporting gay men by helping them improve their mental health and spread awareness about the challenges they face. If you are a gay man, this article might be an opportunity to better understand your issues and consider a path to treating them. Continue reading The Mental Health Issues Gay Men Deal With

Coping with Grief and Anxiety in the Wake of the Orlando Shooting

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When Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20, walked into the Pulse Night Club on the night of June 11, he most likely thought it would be a normal evening. He would dance, socialize, maybe enjoy some of the live entertainment or Latin theme night. Then he would go home, sleep in and see his loved ones in the coming days.

Capo — and at least 49 other people — did not return. They lost their lives in the Orlando shooting, a senseless act of violence and the deadliest mass shooting in our country’s history. Continue reading Coping with Grief and Anxiety in the Wake of the Orlando Shooting

Coming Out in a Safe Space: A Therapist’s Experience

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I once worked with a young woman who was dealing with the recent death of a parent and having a difficult time grieving. She had also been terminated from her job.

But perhaps the biggest challenge was coming to terms with her emerging sexuality as a lesbian. She had known of her same-sex attraction for many years. The inevitability of dating had begun to weigh on her conscience. She was paralyzed and didn’t know what to do. Continue reading Coming Out in a Safe Space: A Therapist’s Experience

The Life, Art, and Mental Illness of Frida Kahlo

The Life, Art, and Mental Illness of Frida Kahlo

Frida Kahlo was no stranger to mental illness. The life and work of this incredible Mexican artist contained an uncanny amount of pain, suffering, and loss.

She was a woman who endured a horrible illness, an even worse accident, and a marriage plagued by relentless infidelity. Because of these monumental events, Kahlo suffered from anxiety and depression, as well as alcoholism and identity issues throughout her life.  Continue reading The Life, Art, and Mental Illness of Frida Kahlo

6 Ways to Support a Transgender or Gender Nonconforming Person

6 Ways to Support a Transgender or Gender Nonconforming Person

It is revolutionary for any trans (transgender) person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist. ~ Laverne Cox

Over the past couple of years the transgender community has gained a higher level of mainstream exposure. This is in part thanks to the transgender men and women who helped fight for equality at New York City’s Stonewall Inn riots back in the1960s. They, among many other social influencers, paved the way into popular culture for transgender individuals like Cher’s son Chaz Bono, Laverne Cox on the hit Netflix show Orange is the New Black, as well as activists and authors like Janet Mock, who released last year’s Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More. Continue reading 6 Ways to Support a Transgender or Gender Nonconforming Person