Holidays Stressing You Out? Change Your Thinking with 3 Tips

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We look forward to the holidays with anticipation and, perhaps, some trepidation. There can be a lot of stress and pressure during holiday activities. This short article will present some thinking tips for the holidays, some ideas you can use to make the holiday season less stressful and more pleasant.

Thinking Tip #1: Get Away from “Should” Thinking and Into Preferences

One of the most common ways in which we get ourselves upset is by thinking other people ‘should’ or ‘must’ behave or act certain ways. If a family member is being selfish or shortsighted, we will be upset with them. It would be nice if they were less selfish and more thoughtful, but there is a big difference between thinking they should versus a preference of it being nice if they would.
When we acknowledge it as a preference that is not happening, we are mildly and temporarily disappointed. When we believe they should act a certain way, we can be upset, sometimes enraged for extended periods of time.
The tip here is to shift your thinking that others ‘should’ or ‘must’ act a certain way to thinking it would be nice if they did but certainly not a requirement for your enjoyment and peace of mind. Continue reading Holidays Stressing You Out? Change Your Thinking with 3 Tips

The Thanksgiving Dichotomy: Gratitude vs. Stress [Infographic]

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At Thanksgiving, there are things you are incredibly grateful for: an excuse to gorge yourself on delicious treats; time off from work; reuniting with the friends and family members you love.

And then there are the things you need to pretend to be thankful for: that relative who always asks why you’re still single or when you’ll have children; that dry, flavorless stuffing you’re expected to eat and praise every. single. year; perhaps driving to multiple celebrations in the same day.

Thanksgiving presents a challenge: feeling gratitude has proven mental health benefits, but certain parts of this holiday can be so taxing. Read on to find a middle ground. Continue reading The Thanksgiving Dichotomy: Gratitude vs. Stress [Infographic]

Dear Therapist: Can I Drink Myself to Mental Health?

Dear Therapist: Can I Drink Myself to Mental Health?

“The most important things to do in the world are to get something to eat, something to drink and somebody to love you.” – Brendan Behan

– by Anonymous Talkspace User

Dear Therapist: Can I Drink Myself to Mental Health?

I’ve always been pretty educated about the health benefits of exercising and eating right. Having doctors in the family resulted in my having way too much knowledge about various health issues, and the impact of maladaptive behaviors that can cause them. But, strangely enough, I was never taught about the overwhelming health hazards of not drinking enough of plain and simple water.

The fact is the brain requires proper hydration to function properly, because brain cells have to maintain a delicate balance between water and other elements. If that balance is disrupted, cognitive health may be negatively affected. Continue reading Dear Therapist: Can I Drink Myself to Mental Health?

Understanding the Lingering Impact of Trauma on Relationships

Why do some people become addicted?

“Someone who has experienced trauma also has gifts to offer all of us – in their depth, their knowledge of our universal vulnerability, and their experience of the power of compassion.”  – Sharon Salzberg, author and teacher.

– by Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC / Talkspace Therapist 

Understanding the Lingering Impact of Trauma on Relationships

It’s 7:10 PM and you’re anxiously waiting at the restaurant your partner has picked out for your weekly date night. You usually run a little late because you try on three different outfits before you leave, but tonight you arrived early for your 7 PM dinner reservation and have been waiting at the restaurant since 6:50 PM.

You want to show your partner that you’re committed to working on your punctuality. The server has stopped by several times to take your order, and you’ve grown increasingly uncomfortable as you wait for your partner.

Continue reading Understanding the Lingering Impact of Trauma on Relationships

Living with the Ghost of Anxiety

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, approximately 40 million Americans live with anxiety related disorders in United States each year, making anxiety one of the most prevalent mental health issues nationally.

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, approximately 40 million Americans live with anxiety related disorders in United States each year, making anxiety one of the most prevalent mental health issues nationally.

– by Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC / Talkspace Therapist 

Tons of people in the United States and beyond cope with moderate to severe anxiety issues. It goes without saying that the impact can be widely felt by those that surround them.

Continue reading Living with the Ghost of Anxiety

4 Unexpected Lessons In Personal Growth, On Vacation

4 Unexpected Lesson In Personal Growth, On Vacation

Sometimes, personal growth happens when you least expect it.

While on vacation, most of us are excited about the adventures we’re having; we’re not always looking to learn life lessons while we travel. In recent years, my husband and I took up hiking as an outdoor hobby. We are not “avid” hikers, but we enjoy it and tend to plan our vacations around opportunities to hike where we can encounter natural breath-taking views. However, one trip in particular stands out because it taught me 4 lessons about personal growth, and I want to share them with you. Continue reading 4 Unexpected Lessons In Personal Growth, On Vacation

This Is What Anxiety Does To Your Body (An Infographic)

This Is What Anxiety Does To Your Body (An Infographic)

Because you really enjoyed our post, How Stress Affects Our Bodies, we’ve decided to follow up with one about Anxiety. So, let’s do this!

When you think about anxiety, do you start to feel a bit anxious, slightly uncomfortable, and perhaps a little sweaty? If so, that’s OK. According to WebMD.com: “Anxiety is a normal human emotion that everyone experiences at times. Many people feel anxious, or nervous, when faced with a problem at work, before taking a test, or making an important decision.” Continue reading This Is What Anxiety Does To Your Body (An Infographic)

Ronda Rousey: The Undefeated UFC Champion Takes on Mental Health

Ronda Rousey: The Undefeated UFC Champion Takes on Mental Health

Ronda Rousey, the most dangerous unarmed woman in the world, is an avid champion of mental health who’s using personal experience to raise awareness about eating disorders and body dysmorphia. 

No one was surprised when Ronda Rousey, an American Judo Olympian and UFC Mixed Martial Artist, defeated Brazilian challenger Bethe Correia on her own turf in 34 seconds during the UFC Bantamweight Championship on August 1st. But a lot of people may be surprised to learn that the remarkable 28 year old fighter, model, and actress is also a champion of mental health focused on eradicating stigma that surrounds it by using social media. Continue reading Ronda Rousey: The Undefeated UFC Champion Takes on Mental Health

Why Do Highly Sensitive People Engage in Routines?

Why Do Highly Sensitive People Engage in Routines?

Although it may seem boring to the rest of us, highly sensitive people (HSP) tend to thrive when they follow a routine, which is actually a vital part of their survival strategy.

Have you ever noticed that some people need to follow a routine to stay grounded and productive? As baffling as it maybe for the rest of us to understand, a large percentage of our population is comprised of dedicated creatures of habit; they like to know exactly how their day will unravel and strive to stick to the same routine, day in and day out. This is especially true for highly sensitive people (HSP). Continue reading Why Do Highly Sensitive People Engage in Routines?

What The Beat of Your Heart Can Reveal About Your Mental Health

What The Beat of Your Heart Can Reveal About Your Mental Health

Research suggests high blood pressure is at the heart of rapid cognitive decline. So, there you have it.

We know that it’s extremely important to take care of our hearts. But most of us know this because we’ve been told, over and over again, that a staggering 610,000 people die of heart disease in the United States – that’s 1 in every 4 deaths annually! New research, however, indicates that high blood pressure can also significantly impact our mental health – so pay attention. Continue reading What The Beat of Your Heart Can Reveal About Your Mental Health