Dating Someone With Anxiety: What You Need to Know and Do

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Dating someone with anxiety issues or an anxiety disorder can be horribly stressful. Sometimes it can feel like the anxiety is a third person in the relationship, someone who wriggles in between you and your partner. This person constantly sews doubt and confusion.

No one prepared you for this, and you can’t choose who you fall for. There’s no high school class on dating, much less dating someone with a mental health condition.

Nonetheless, anxiety doesn’t have to break your relationship or put a strain on it to the point where it’s hard to enjoy. By understanding anxiety in general and how it affects both your partner and your relationship, you can love each other more deeply and connect in a new way. Educating yourself can also relieve a lot of the stress.

This article breaks down everything you need to know and do when dating someone with anxiety: how to support your partner, understanding how the anxiety can impact your relationship, looking out for your own mental health and more. Keep reading if you want to make sure anxiety doesn’t become a third person in your relationship. Continue reading Dating Someone With Anxiety: What You Need to Know and Do

‘Why Pay So Much for a Therapist When I Can Buy Self-Help Books?’

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As the manager of a blog for an online therapy company, I frequently encourage my friends, family members and acquaintances to work with a psychotherapist for the first time. Psychotherapy improved my mental health and has helped me achieve much of what I want, so I try to give them the same opportunity.

Unfortunately some of them dismiss it. One of the most commons rationales for refusal is,

“Why would I pay so much for a therapist when I can buy a bunch of self-help books?”

Continue reading ‘Why Pay So Much for a Therapist When I Can Buy Self-Help Books?’

What Causes Social Anxiety?

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Social anxiety can be both frustrating and fascinating. If you suffer with it, you might wonder, “What causes social anxiety? Why do I have to deal with this?”

Even if you don’t have it, you might be curious. Maybe someone you care about has it or you are interested in exploring the issues surrounding it.

Whatever the perspective or motivation is, learning about what causes social anxiety is worth it. Understanding the causes can help you be more empathetic toward the roughly 15 million people who deal with it. If you have social anxiety and are tired of it limiting your life or stressing you out, learning what causes it is the first step toward treating it. Continue reading What Causes Social Anxiety?

How Therapy Can Help People Cope With Terminal Illnesses

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When people have a terminal illness and are journeying through their final days, they need lots of love and support from friends and family. Sometimes this isn’t enough, though.

Loved ones don’t necessarily have the skills or time to help someone come to terms with mortality. They might not know how to assist in making meaning of life as it is coming to an end.

This is when a psychotherapist or grief counselor can be invaluable. These mental health professionals have the skills to make patients and their loved ones as comfortable as possible during the end of a terminal illness. Continue reading How Therapy Can Help People Cope With Terminal Illnesses

What I Learned When My Therapist Dumped Me

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“I think this should be our last session,” said my former therapist, Leslie.

“What? Why?” I asked.

My brows furrowed and my heart started pounding. In only a few seconds my mind rapidly conjured possibilities and anxiety-provoking questions.

Was she sick of me? Had I done something to offend her? Was there some problem with my insurance? Continue reading What I Learned When My Therapist Dumped Me

How Can Families Reunite After Trump’s Victory Split Them Apart?

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Before the 2016 election, writer Michael Noker was “incredibly close” with his mother. He saw her as a role model because of her strength, feminism and history of overcoming abuse. Before he came out as gay, his mother was already teaching him the importance of respecting members of the LGBT community.

Then he learned she was voting for Donald Trump. Because of Hillary Clinton’s persecution of her husband’s accusers during his sex scandal, his mother didn’t perceive Clinton as a more feminist choice than Trump. She was also disappointed with Obamacare and seemed to want a new leader who would change it.

When Noker told her about Trump’s comments on the infamous tape with Billy Bush, she dismissed them as “probably taken out of context.” He also informed her of the many sexual assault allegations Trump faced. She dismissed them as well, saying it was suspicious that women were coming forward so many years after the purported incidents. Continue reading How Can Families Reunite After Trump’s Victory Split Them Apart?

Meet Our Consultation Therapists: Jennifer K. Fuller

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Name: Jennifer K. Fuller
Licensing Info: Licensed Professional Counselor [LPC] in OK #4972, Certified Traumatologist
Where you live: Tulsa, OK
Amount of time working at Talkspace: two years
Time working as a therapist: seven years

Why are you working in therapy/mental health?

I love connecting with people and I was born a very empathetic person. The field of psychology and the human mind fascinate me. It always made sense to me to be working in this field.

But I like to think no matter what job I were to work in I would still be impacting other people’s lives. We all have something to offer one another. That can be done whether you are a therapist, a custodian, a musician, a stay at home mom, entrepreneur, anything.

Everybody is making a difference in others’ lives and the world, even when they don’t realize it. I try to be mindful of that. Continue reading Meet Our Consultation Therapists: Jennifer K. Fuller

The 4 Phases You Will Encounter When Making Progress in Therapy

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Therapy can be daunting. Even if you’re considering working with a psychotherapist, you might not know much or anything about the therapeutic process.

Like all clients, you will want to make progress so you can live a happier life and develop cognitive skills that will help you cope with various challenges. It can seem like a shot in the dark, though. What if you have no idea what the journey will be like or what you need to do?

To illuminate your path, we outlined the phases of making progress in therapy. Rather than forging blindly ahead, you can use this article to navigate the process. Continue reading The 4 Phases You Will Encounter When Making Progress in Therapy

Meet Our Therapists: Kendra Simpson

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Name: Kendra Simpson
Licensing Info: Licensed Clinical Social Worker [LCSW], Licensed Independent Substance Abuse Counselor [LISAC]
Where you live: Arizona
Hometown: Michigan
Amount of time working at Talkspace: almost two years
Time working as a Therapist: 15 years

Why are you working in therapy/mental health?

I’ve known I wanted to be a therapist since middle school. I began working in this field because I felt an innate drive to help others and had a huge curiosity toward the human mind and human behavior.

Over time, however, I have begun to realize this work grants me knowledge beyond what I imagined. Most recently I am reminded that despite all the negativity we are exposed to in this world, I get to interact with positive, hopeful, brave and courageous people each and every day! Continue reading Meet Our Therapists: Kendra Simpson

When Your Family Brings Up Post-Election Politics During Thanksgiving

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It’s going to happen. You’re praying it doesn’t, but it’s inevitable.

During Thanksgiving, one of your relatives is going to bring up post-election politics. If your family members have opposing political views, this could be the beginning of a terrible evening. Your annoying uncle might say Trump isn’t so bad, which spurs your equally annoying aunt into going on a rant about how your uncle hates women.

A few minutes later everyone is shouting and arguing about issues and people you are sick of hearing about: Trump, his cabinet, Hillary, her emails, the electoral college, Bernie Sanders, Obamacare, 2020 and much more. There’s a chance someone will rope you in and pressure you to take a stance in front of the whole family.

What do you do? How do you handle the situation and the stress? Continue reading When Your Family Brings Up Post-Election Politics During Thanksgiving