Written by:Jill E. Daino, LCSW-R

Published On: March 14, 2022

Medically reviewed by: Meaghan Rice, PsyD., LPC

Reviewed On: March 14, 2022

Updated On: July 5, 2023


Updated 1/14/2023

Are you wondering how to help somebody with anxiety? You’re not alone. Anxiety affects millions of people and has no regard for gender, age, background, or anything else — chances are, you know someone with anxiety.

The tricky part of generalized anxiety disorder is that it can present itself through several symptoms and reactions that we all experience as part of our natural defense systems. It’s important to remember that anxiety is good in small doses. However, repetitive, chronic anxiety can be debilitating and affect us negatively as we try to navigate our daily lives.

If you or someone you love experiences routine anxiety that interferes with socialization, work, school, or family life, there are several things you can do to help. Here we’re reviewing 13 effective ways to learn how to help someone with severe anxiety live a more content, confident, and happy life.

1. Educate Yourself About Anxiety

The first step in how to help someone with anxiety is to try to understand it. More than 40 million American adults live with chronic anxiety. It’s the most commonly experienced mental health condition in the US. Though it’s a highly treatable condition, sadly only about one-third of those with an official anxiety disorder diagnosis receive the treatment they need to manage their anxiety and live a full life.

There are various classifications of anxiety disorders, including generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), panic disorder, social anxiety disorder (SAD), and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), to name a few.

Education is key if we want to get better at anything in life. This is especially true when looking for ways to help a loved one deal with the mental or physical symptoms of their chronic anxiety. It can be extremely helpful to learn as much as possible about how to help someone with anxiety disorder. You can start by teaching yourself about what causes anxiety, common symptoms of anxiety, and effective management techniques.

Don’t just learn by yourself, either. Learn alongside the person with anxiety who you’re hoping to help. They need to know just as much information about their condition as you do. It might be helpful if they learn about some lifestyle changes that might help them decrease the frequency and intensity of their symptoms and improve their quality of life.

2. Learn the Signs of Anxiety

Anxiety manifests in different ways in different people. However, there are similar symptoms that can co-occur. While the following isn’t an exhaustive list by any means, it does represent some of the most common symptoms associated with anxiety. People with anxiety often experience:

  • Repetitive feelings of nervousness, fear, or panic
  • Constantly feeling wound up or on-edge
  • Restlessness and jitteriness
  • Fast or irregular heartbeat
  • Quick, shallow breathing
  • Angina (chest pains)
  • Being easily startled
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Headache
  • Nausea

People with chronic anxiety may also experience muscle tightness, dry mouth, sweating, irritation, overgeneralizing, and a sense of impending doom. They may feel that the worst is always about to happen, even if there’s no logical reasoning for that type of thought. At times, they may even experience a panic attack.

3. Listen to & Validate Their Feelings

It’s important to make sure you’re able to listen and validate feelings if a loved one with anxiety is seeking reassurance from you. They may seem to want you to legitimize their feelings about “What if this terrible thing happens?” That said, reassurance may not be what they really need. On the contrary, continual reassurance might exacerbate and prolong their symptoms.

Sometimes, it’s better to point out that you recognize their need for reassurance while still gently pointing out that nothing seems to be going on to justify how they’re feeling.

Acknowledging feelings and sharing that you understand that they’re anxious is helpful. You can also share that you don’t want to make them more anxious in the long run by constantly offering reassurance about things that don’t seem to be true.

Follow up by suggesting natural remedies for anxiety and techniques for better managing symptoms — things like:

  • Deep breathing exercises for anxiety
  • Getting some physical exercise
  • Engaging in mindfulness meditation
  • Getting out in nature
  • Talking with a professional therapist

“Don’t underestimate how valuable listening to your friend or family is, being able to be supportive of their experience can make a significant difference. It’s often those small moments of listening that can help someone who’s experiencing anxiety to reground into their day.”

Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW-R), BC-TMH Jill Daino

4. Know What to Avoid

Of course, you don’t want to do anything that might cause anxious thoughts or symptoms to become more frequent or intense. You just want to soothe your loved ones so they’ll feel better and more relaxed, but it can be helpful to know what to avoid, too.

5. Don’t be a know-it-all

Don’t act like a professional mental health counselor unless you are one. You could, however, suggest some methods that have worked for others to help alleviate anxiety symptoms. You can also do some research with your friend or loved one to try and find effective ways to work on decreasing their anxiety symptoms.

6. Don’t blindly give reassurance

Despite feeling like you might be helping, as we touched on above, continuous reassurance about everything can actually have a negative impact and feed somebody’s anxiety level.

7. Don’t feed into feelings of doom

It’s important that you’re careful not to feed into the things someone has an anxious feeling about. A good question to ask someone who has consistent feelings of doom is, “Who told you that?

8. Don’t hide your real feelings, so you don’t hurt your friend’s

Let your friend know that you’re there for them. Admit if you don’t know the best course of action to help them feel better. Be willing to explore current research and effective techniques for minimizing the frequency and intensity of anxiety symptoms.

“While it may not always make sense to you, understanding your friend or family member’s triggers for anxiety can help you best support them as they navigate challenging environments or situations.”

Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW-R), BC-TMH Jill Daino

9. Share Helpful Tips & Resources for Anxiety

It might feel overwhelming to try and figure out how to help someone with severe anxiety. It’s OK if you’re not sure exactly where to start. Even if your loved one has already explored on their own, there are so many resources you can suggest to help them. This can include on-topic books, articles, apps, online groups, podcasts, and radio and television shows.

Here are a few authoritative resources that can be very helpful:

Anxiety is such a common mental health condition that there are tons of resources out there for anyone trying to navigate their healing.

“While each person is unique and has their own experiences with anxiety, it’s important to remember that the tips and strategies recommended are like a muscle that needs to be strengthened. The more you practice them, the easier it’ll be to access them in the moment when you need them the most.”

Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW-R), BC-TMH Jill Daino

10. Encourage Them to Find Treatment

The good news is anxiety is a very treatable condition. In many cases, adopting new lifestyle choices about where you focus, what you eat, how much exercise you get, and other controllable factors in life can help reduce symptoms to a manageable point. This is an attainable goal for most people who experience excessive anxiety.

Yet there are some cases where mental or physical symptoms can become so frequent, severe, and debilitating that professional assistance is needed. A trained and skilled therapist can offer information and techniques that are useful in how to treat anxiety. It’s all part of knowing how to help an anxious person with anxiety disorder.

As a friend or loved one of a person with anxiety, it’s not always in your power to help as much as you might like to. Use your best judgment and encourage professional therapy for anxiety if needed. The right treatment can ensure that anxiety symptoms are reduced enough to allow someone to return to normal life.

“It’s important to remember that there are resources available to get support for your friend or family member who’s experiencing anxiety. They do not have to struggle alone. Reaching out to a licensed therapist for support can begin the process of getting help with their symptoms.”

Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW-R), BC-TMH Jill Daino

11. Introduce Mindfulness Meditation

The many advantages of mindfulness meditation for anxiety should not be underestimated. Meditation offers powerful benefits for all people, especially those living with mental health conditions like chronic anxiety. Meditation can help someone learn to analyze their anxious thoughts as they occur and then take proactive steps to get a handle on their anxiety management.  

12. Other Holistic Remedies

There are multiple age-old, proven techniques to help alleviate anxiety symptoms. Consider one of the following natural remedies for anxiety:

  • Taking a hot Epsom salt bath
  • Diffusing some relaxing essential oils
  • Practicing deep breathing
  • Attending a hot-Yoga session
  • Engaging in a water-only fast
  • Burning candles
  • Simply stepping outside and breathing in the fresh air

13. Remember to Take Care of Yourself

Loving someone who’s affected by chronic anxiety can be challenging at first. Keep in mind, though, you can only love somebody so much before you need to take a break and recharge your own batteries. Don’t be afraid to practice some self care on your own mental wellbeing, too. This is an important and helpful thing to remember at any time in life, especially if you’re trying to learn how to help someone with anxiety disorder.If your loved one is suffering from chronic anxiety, it may be time to seek treatment. Talkspace offers online therapy geared toward those who want help, but might have trouble finding the time.

See References

Jill E. Daino, LCSW-R

Jill E. Daino, LCSW-R, BC-TMH, is a clinical social worker with over 25 years of experience as a therapist, clinical supervisor, and program director. She works to support quality clinical care at Talkspace. Her work as a clinician and trainer focuses on the mental health impact of body image concerns and eating disorders across the lifespan.

Effective and affordable mental health treatment

Get Started

Articles about Generalized Anxiety Disorder

View all articles
Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 28, 2023

Does Insurance Cover Treatment for Anxiety?

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 28, 2023

Magnesium for Anxiety: Does it Work?

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 28, 2023

How to Reduce Anxiety Immediately: 8 Effective Ways

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 28, 2023

17 Anxiety Triggers You Should Be Aware Of

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 28, 2023

Valerian Root for Anxiety: Does it Work?

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 27, 2023

Passionflower for Anxiety: Does it Work?

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 27, 2023

Melatonin for Anxiety: Does it Work?

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 27, 2023

L-Theanine for Anxiety: Does it Work?

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 27, 2023

11 Relaxing Essential Oils for Anxiety

Featured Image
Anxiety Disorder September 27, 2023

Anxiety Nausea: How to Identify & Deal with It

Effective and affordable mental health treatment

Get Started