What I Wish Someone Had Told Me About How Therapy Actually Works

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The first time I pulled my car up to a therapist’s office, I had no idea what the experience would be like. The only images I had were from “Good Will Hunting” and “Equus,” both great movies but ones that don’t accurately portray therapy. I was skeptical, worried it would be a waste of time and money.

After years of chatting with therapists, other therapy-goers and people who were on the fence, I learned many people who consider therapy feel similarly before they commit. Therapy is a different for everyone, but there are common myths and misconceptions that aren’t true, ones that prevent people from receiving the benefits I have.

To break this stigma barrier, I reached out to therapists and drew upon my own experience. Keep reading to learn the truth about therapy.

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Take Control of Your Emotions with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

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We often believe we are at the mercy of situations and events. The long line at the bank made us upset. What that person said got us depressed. There are so many situations in our lives that have the power to make us feel happy or sad, angry or calm.

And yet, is that really what is happening? Does the situation actually control our moods and emotions? Continue reading Take Control of Your Emotions with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Has Your Sex Life Simmered Down? Here’s How to Reignite The Passion

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Sparks fly and bodies meld when you’re having great sex. But what happens when it cools and morphs into a routine?

Sexual intimacy presents an opportunity for great connectivity, self discovery, pleasure and vivacity. But it can also be a source of loss, pain, fear and vulnerability. The typical reaction to these sides of sex is to withdraw and create walls.

What if instead, you chose to open up to the barriers you are hitting, including your own self-doubt or shame, fear of loss, long-term doubts about the relationship, or the jealousy and comparisons with past partners? Introspection and perpetual striving for new ways to connect and explore your essence as a sexual being, and that of your partner, is the key to increased intimacy and better sex.

Here are a few key mechanisms to maximize healthy sexuality, intimacy, connection and passion in deliberate and fun ways. Continue reading Has Your Sex Life Simmered Down? Here’s How to Reignite The Passion

How to Encourage Your Loved One to Start Therapy

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There is still a lot of stigma surrounding mental health issues in the U.S. and abroad, despite the efforts of platforms such as Talkspace that aim to help everyone achieve mental wellness. The good news is, due to social media campaigns such as #EndtheStigma, there is a greater conversation going on about mental health. This opens the door for meaningful dialogue about how to live with the most challenging feelings.

With growing mainstream exposure of mental health issues and therapy, many of us are becoming more attuned to the impact of psychological issues on ourselves and those around us. With a greater sense of awareness, more people are seeking therapy for themselves and promoting mental health care to their loved ones.

One of the most difficult things to witness is having a loved one who is suffering in silence and desperately needs help. It can be difficult to know how to help your loved one access the services and treatment they need to get better. Read on for our suggestions to help your loved one begin therapy. Continue reading How to Encourage Your Loved One to Start Therapy

Is Therapy Working for You? How to Know Your Therapist is Helping

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It takes weeks, sometimes months to see results in therapy, but there are ways to gauge whether you are making progress. The key is looking at both long and short-term goals and improvements. You can vent to a friend and feel better for a day, but only a licensed therapist can help you become happier and healthier for the rest of your life.

Starting with Short-Term Goals

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Sometimes It’s OK to Trust Your Gut

When building any relationship with someone, there is chemistry and intuition, feelings of satisfaction when you are lucky enough to click with this new person. Sometimes clients commit to sessions with a great therapist but realize he or she is not the right fit. It’s no one’s fault. Still, therapy won’t work for you if you’re toughing it out with a therapist who is the wrong fit. Continue reading Is Therapy Working for You? How to Know Your Therapist is Helping

Can Therapy Help You Get a Date?

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I spent seven years being very single —  as in striking out most of the time — until I found an amazing woman to be in a healthy relationship with. During the tail end of that period, I started therapy where I often worked on negative beliefs and patterns that caused me to waste time chasing after women who weren’t interested or right for me. By the time I began dating my girlfriend, therapy had taught me how to communicate in a dating environment, use reasonable beliefs to find great women who were interested in me, and form a happy relationship.  

There are thousands of stories like mine where clients have worked with a therapist to become happier and healthier people, which is way more attractive than it sounds. Listen to some of these stories and more details of mine to learn how therapy is the way to have a great dating life and find someone you can be happy with. Continue reading Can Therapy Help You Get a Date?

How Much Does Therapy Cost? (And Why Is It So Expensive?)

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Seeing a therapist in an office is not affordable for most Americans. This is unfortunate for people who have looked past the stigma of therapy and committed to living happier lives but can’t afford the therapist’s rates. The average therapy session costs $75-150 an hour, and good luck if you live in a place like New York where the range jumps to $200-300.

People who rail against therapy accuse therapists of being greedy, but therapists actually have valid reasons for their high prices. Nonetheless, don’t believe you are stuck paying for therapy you can’t afford. Learning why it is so expensive is the first step toward searching for alternatives and paths to affordable therapy. Continue reading How Much Does Therapy Cost? (And Why Is It So Expensive?)

How Well Do You Know Your Movie and TV Therapists?

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“Good Will Hunting” is far from the only movie that features therapy. Robin Williams gave an unrivaled performance, but there are a lot of other great fictional therapists in film and television.

But do you know them? Could you identify them with minimal details? To learn the answer and test your knowledge of film and television, take our fun quiz! Continue reading How Well Do You Know Your Movie and TV Therapists?

What I Wish Someone Had Told Me About How Therapy Actually Works

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The first time I pulled my car up to a therapist’s office, I had no idea what the experience would be like. The only images I had were from “Good Will Hunting” and “Equus,” both great movies but ones that don’t accurately portray therapy. I was skeptical, worried it would be a waste of time and money.

After years of chatting with therapists, other therapy-goers and people who were on the fence, I learned many people who consider therapy feel similarly before they commit. Therapy is a different for everyone, but there are common myths and misconceptions that aren’t true, ones that prevent people from receiving the benefits I have.

To break this stigma barrier, I reached out to therapists and drew upon my own experience. Keep reading to learn the truth about therapy.

Continue reading What I Wish Someone Had Told Me About How Therapy Actually Works

The Truth About People Who Go to Therapy: 11 Misconceptions and Myths

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There’s little stigma in going to the doctor when you feel sick, but what about seeing a therapist to talk out problems or gain an ally to grapple with mental illness? People who go to therapy are finding a treatment for their mind and emotions — the same way a doctor treats your body — yet they deal with unfair misconceptions and assumptions about why they are going and what they must be like.

To replace these myths with reality, we reached out to therapists in and outside our network and spoke to people who go to therapy. Keep reading to fight the stigma around mental illness and learn the truth about why people work with therapists. Continue reading The Truth About People Who Go to Therapy: 11 Misconceptions and Myths