The Best Way to Fight With Your Partner, According to a Therapist

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Fighting with your partner can be stressful, demoralizing, and scary. But fighting doesn’t have to be a source of such angst, and certainly doesn’t have to weaken your relationship. There are productive ways to argue with your partner and work through challenges that can bolster your connection and leave both people feeling better.

Of course, much of the difficulty of fighting comes down to each partner’s communication style. Sometimes, it’s not what we say — but how we say it — that leaves one or both partners feeling misunderstood, angry, and emotionally abandoned. Learning how to fight in a healthy way with your partner is much more important than trying to avoid fights in the first place.

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4 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People, According to a Therapist

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Everyone knows difficult people — whether at work, at home, maybe even in your friend group. While people can be difficult for a variety of reasons, most people we’d identify as “difficult” share something in common: they are hard to interact with. Perhaps they are fixated on being right, always pointing out others’ flaws. They may make social situations tense by being quick to criticize or make fun of others, whether openly or passive-aggressively. They may explode when they are challenged, or have volatile mood swings. Often, others feel like they have to walk on eggshells around them.

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Bipolar Disorder and Relationships

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When you have a serious mental illness like bipolar disorder, navigating relationships can be difficult. Not only is it difficult to overcome the self-limiting factors those with bipolar disorder may place on themselves, but it’s difficult to get over the limitations that may externally be placed on a person with bipolar disorder. These are challenges that can feel impossible to overcome but people with bipolar disorder can have social and intimate relationships, and what’s more, doing so can even improve their mental health.

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These People Got Free Roses on Valentine’s…With One Catch

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Imagine you are walking down the street on a freezing winter day — looking for something to warm your spirits — and encounter a group of strangers who offer you a free rose with only one condition: you need to indulge in some PDA. Continue reading These People Got Free Roses on Valentine’s…With One Catch

Long-Distance Relationships: How to Survive and Thrive in the LDR

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So, you were out with friends one night and met someone amazing – fantastic! But wait, the person lives in another city, state or country. Sad face. How’s that going to work?

Having recently been in a temporary long-distance relationship myself, I realized it’s a whole different ballgame from when I was in college 20 years ago (OK, maybe 25). Back then it was a phone call on Sunday and Wednesday and monthly visits. Now there’s social media and all kinds of ways to stay connected, so I decided to crowdsource best practices. I heard a lot of great things — some old school and some new but all relevant and helpful. Continue reading Long-Distance Relationships: How to Survive and Thrive in the LDR

Understanding the Lingering Impact of Trauma on Relationships

Why do some people become addicted?

“Someone who has experienced trauma also has gifts to offer all of us – in their depth, their knowledge of our universal vulnerability, and their experience of the power of compassion.”  – Sharon Salzberg, author and teacher.

– by Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC / Talkspace Therapist 

Understanding the Lingering Impact of Trauma on Relationships

It’s 7:10 PM and you’re anxiously waiting at the restaurant your partner has picked out for your weekly date night. You usually run a little late because you try on three different outfits before you leave, but tonight you arrived early for your 7 PM dinner reservation and have been waiting at the restaurant since 6:50 PM.

You want to show your partner that you’re committed to working on your punctuality. The server has stopped by several times to take your order, and you’ve grown increasingly uncomfortable as you wait for your partner.

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Why Do People In Committed Relationships Cheat? (Part 1)

Why Do People In Committed Relationships Cheat?

Why do people cheat, and what can be done to prevent it?

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3 Fool-Proof Signs You’re Now Ready for Dating

3 Fool-Proof Signs You’re Now Ready for Dating

Dating is a strange and tedious process.

You’ve probably noticed that we live in a digital age, with more people than ever living up the “single lifestyle”: friends with benefits and relationships with no-strings attached (NSA). Furthermore, people in both rural and metropolitan areas are increasingly turning to non-traditional relationships of other varieties. Continue reading 3 Fool-Proof Signs You’re Now Ready for Dating

Dear Therapist: Let’s Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 2)

Dear Therapist: Let's Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 2)

Yesterday love was such an easy game to play
Now I need a place to hide away
Oh, I believe in yesterday – The Beatles

– by Anonymous Talkspace User 

Dear Therapist: Let's Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 2)

When we first start to fall in love, we become infatuated with one another, driven by our admiration and passion and excitement for our partners. But, regardless of how much we may try, as the relationship progresses these things eventually begin to fade. I think that is when they are replaced by mutual respect, support, and loyalty (or at least they should be). I think that is when real love sets in. But, if we’re being completely honest, we must admit that fostering mutual respect, support, and loyalty takes a hell of a lot of work.

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Dear Therapist: Let’s Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 1)

Dear Therapist: Let's Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 1)

Falling in love has been one of the most important events of my life, but staying in love continues to be a challenge that I welcome on a daily basis. And, every once in a while, I need a bit of help.

 – by Anonymous Talkspace User 

Love. What can I possibly tell you about it? It is one of the most talked about subjects in human history with endless stories, songs, and works of art being dedicated to it since the dawn of time. But, we still don’t really seem to understand how to cultivate love or how to keep it going. Although almost every person in the world will tell you that love is the most important thing in life, it’s difficult to find people who have experienced real and enduring love with the same partner for an entire lifetime. Continue reading Dear Therapist: Let’s Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 1)