Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship (+ How to Get Out of It)

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Online, our relationship was great. We had a lot in common. We couldn’t get enough of each other’s “texting company.” It may seem crazy to you, but it seemed like a good idea at the time: I invited a person I’d never met to fly halfway across the world — not only to meet me in person, but also to stay in my apartment for the two weeks she was visiting. I hoped the relationship would turn into something rich and real, distance be damned. Bad decision.

Just two days into her stay, the red flags started going up. She manipulated me, created a hostile atmosphere in my home, initiated never-ending drama, made ridiculous demands of me, criticized me often, talked poorly about me behind my back, forbade me from talking to friends about our relationship. Can you say toxic? I can, and thankfully, I got this person out of my life. But it wasn’t easy.

How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship

While there are plenty of signs you may be in a toxic relationship, it’s not always clear when you’re deep in the dynamic itself. Often times, a toxic partnership starts out well enough, but then slowly (and subtly) starts to erode your sense of self. One of the first warning signs of a potential toxic relationship is that the other person is consistently violating your boundaries.

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3 Tips to Stop Social Media from Killing Your Intimate Relationship

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Technology may be revitalizing our lost connections and communications with other people – think of all the people from your high school you would never interact with if not for Facebook – but our dependency on social media is slowing killing our most intimate relationships.

Many millennials will disagree with this statement, but those of us age 35 or older can still remember when dating was more of a quality time experience. There were no distractions from phones, Internet, or social media. You went out and spent time with your partner, verbally communicating and learning about each other’s lives, interests and personalities. This was the way to connect on an intimate level, the type of intimacy necessary to sustain partnerships for years. Continue reading 3 Tips to Stop Social Media from Killing Your Intimate Relationship

5 (Not So Obvious) Ways To Improve Your Relationship Today

5 (Not So Obvsious) Ways To Improve Your Relationship Today

Let’s face it, we all have certain expectations of what a romantic relationship is supposed to look and feel like.

When we find ourselves entering new relationships, we get caught up in the swells of infatuation and sexual chemistry. We may even lose awareness of ourselves and the values we bring to the relationship, which can greatly impact it’s trajectory. How we speak to our partners, how much time we feel like we’re supposed to spend together, and even how often we have sex can get difficult to figure out.

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What Happens If Your Relationship Expires Every 7 Years?

What Happens When Your Relationship Expires Every 7 Years?

Anyone who has ever been in a serious relationship will tell you that maintaining a positive connection with a romantic partner is one of life’s most difficult challenges. But if there’s a will, there IS a way!

When you have two people hoping to share their hearts, families, futures, responsibilities, and all other aspects of their lives together, there’s simply no room for negligence, selfishness, or pettiness in their relationship. Just ask our very own Dr. Iris Reitzes, PhD. In her direct, honest, and eye-opening TedEx talk, the Talkspace clinical partner explains how so many couples that start out madly in love, end up in couples counseling fighting to save their marriages. Continue reading What Happens If Your Relationship Expires Every 7 Years?

How to Say Goodbye: 5 Tips for Ending Therapy

How to Say Goodbye: 5 Tips for Ending Therapy

When someone enters therapy and begins a relationship with their therapist, whether it’s online or offline, the last thing on that person’s mind is leaving.

– by Nicole Amesbury, MS, LMHC / Talkspace Therapist & Head of Clinical Development 

But, just like with all relationships, there will come a time to say goodbye and it’s how they choose to go about it that really matters. Lets face it, many endings to relationships tend to be negative; think break-ups, death, and divorce. They may even be the reasons someone comes to therapy in the first place. But the good news is, ending therapy on a positive note is absolutely possible and it will enrich the time you spent receiving it! Continue reading How to Say Goodbye: 5 Tips for Ending Therapy