Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship (+ How to Get Out of It)

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Online, our relationship was great. We had a lot in common. We couldn’t get enough of each other’s “texting company.” It may seem crazy to you, but it seemed like a good idea at the time: I invited a person I’d never met to fly halfway across the world — not only to meet me in person, but also to stay in my apartment for the two weeks she was visiting. I hoped the relationship would turn into something rich and real, distance be damned. Bad decision.

Just two days into her stay, the red flags started going up. She manipulated me, created a hostile atmosphere in my home, initiated never-ending drama, made ridiculous demands of me, criticized me often, talked poorly about me behind my back, forbade me from talking to friends about our relationship. Can you say toxic? I can, and thankfully, I got this person out of my life. But it wasn’t easy.

How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship

While there are plenty of signs you may be in a toxic relationship, it’s not always clear when you’re deep in the dynamic itself. Often times, a toxic partnership starts out well enough, but then slowly (and subtly) starts to erode your sense of self. One of the first warning signs of a potential toxic relationship is that the other person is consistently violating your boundaries.

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A Guide to Setting Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

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“Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” —Antoine de Saint-Exupery

This quote encapsulates what most healthy relationships really look like — two individuals who support each other on their distinct journeys, rather than two people who become lost in one another. Much of this comes down to having and maintaining clear boundaries, even within a romantic relationship.

It may seem obvious, but what are boundaries, really?

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Sexual Self-Worth is About More Than Just Sex. Here’s Why

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We’ve all been there — finally connecting with a person we pined after for months — feeling the exhilaration, the desire, the ravaging. Regardless of the quality of the sex itself, in that moment we feel wanted, desired, and sought after.  But then what?

What happens when they ghost you, or communicate that it’s not the best fit? What if, after you date long term, they desire sex less often?

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Dear Therapist: What if Work Interferes With My Therapy?

Dear Therapist What If Work Interferes With My Therapy

Since I started therapy, I’ve been trying to find a more effective way of balancing work, recreational activities, personal time, as well as therapy itself. It hasn’t been easy.

– by Anonymous Talkspace User

I have a job that requires a lot of mental effort. By the time I get home from work, I am usually feeling a little tired and somewhat wound up. But my day doesn’t abruptly end there. Like most people, I also have a lot going on outside of my job. So, when the stresses of my personal life are combined with the stresses of my professional life, I tend to emotionally shut down until I can process my feelings in therapy or on my own time.  Continue reading Dear Therapist: What if Work Interferes With My Therapy?