When to Say, “I Love You,” According to a Therapist

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Relationship problems are one of the main reasons people seek out therapy. And there is no time in our lives more complicated than the beginning stages of a romantic relationship. Our goal is usually aimed at doing everything we can to maintain the relationship.

We spend a lot of energy trying not to scare the other person away, right? In the early stages of a relationship, we often find ourselves walking on eggshells. Sometimes we hide our true opinions and feelings in an effort to keep the peace. This can leave us confused about when we should say, “I love you”.

What if this scares your new boo away? What if you come off as “needy” or “desperate”? What if they don’t say it back?! Continue reading When to Say, “I Love You,” According to a Therapist

These People Got Free Roses on Valentine’s…With One Catch

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Imagine you are walking down the street on a freezing winter day — looking for something to warm your spirits — and encounter a group of strangers who offer you a free rose with only one condition: you need to indulge in some PDA. Continue reading These People Got Free Roses on Valentine’s…With One Catch

Use Boundaries to Keep Your Individuality When You Fall in Love

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Falling in love and building a relationship is wonderful, but it can destroy individuality if you’re not careful. Expressing boundaries will help you maintain your individuality and a healthy relationship.

A relationship can create an all-encompassing, overwhelmingly positive feeling. During the initial stages people often call an “infatuation phase,” boundaries melt and dissolve. We merge together. Our life becomes theirs, theirs ours. We lose ourselves. Continue reading Use Boundaries to Keep Your Individuality When You Fall in Love

5 (Not So Obvious) Ways To Improve Your Relationship Today

5 (Not So Obvsious) Ways To Improve Your Relationship Today

Let’s face it, we all have certain expectations of what a romantic relationship is supposed to look and feel like.

When we find ourselves entering new relationships, we get caught up in the swells of infatuation and sexual chemistry. We may even lose awareness of ourselves and the values we bring to the relationship, which can greatly impact it’s trajectory. How we speak to our partners, how much time we feel like we’re supposed to spend together, and even how often we have sex can get difficult to figure out.

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Dear Therapist: Let’s Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 2)

Dear Therapist: Let's Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 2)

Yesterday love was such an easy game to play
Now I need a place to hide away
Oh, I believe in yesterday – The Beatles

– by Anonymous Talkspace User 

Dear Therapist: Let's Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 2)

When we first start to fall in love, we become infatuated with one another, driven by our admiration and passion and excitement for our partners. But, regardless of how much we may try, as the relationship progresses these things eventually begin to fade. I think that is when they are replaced by mutual respect, support, and loyalty (or at least they should be). I think that is when real love sets in. But, if we’re being completely honest, we must admit that fostering mutual respect, support, and loyalty takes a hell of a lot of work.

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Dear Therapist: Let’s Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 1)

Dear Therapist: Let's Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 1)

Falling in love has been one of the most important events of my life, but staying in love continues to be a challenge that I welcome on a daily basis. And, every once in a while, I need a bit of help.

 – by Anonymous Talkspace User 

Love. What can I possibly tell you about it? It is one of the most talked about subjects in human history with endless stories, songs, and works of art being dedicated to it since the dawn of time. But, we still don’t really seem to understand how to cultivate love or how to keep it going. Although almost every person in the world will tell you that love is the most important thing in life, it’s difficult to find people who have experienced real and enduring love with the same partner for an entire lifetime. Continue reading Dear Therapist: Let’s Talk About Love, and Hate (Part 1)

Dear Therapist: How Does This Whole Forgiveness Thing Work Anyway?

Dear Therapist_ How Does This Whole Forgiveness Thing Work Anyway?

Forgiveness,
Is more than saying sorry
Forgiveness,
Means accepting peoples flaws…  – via Just Friends

– by Anonymous Talkspace User

Forgive. Let Go. Move On. That’s what I read in every article that talks about healing emotional wounds and finding love for the people that hurt you. The thing is, though, I don’t really know how to forgive – and when my therapist asked me about what I expected forgiveness to actually look like, I genuinely didn’t have an answer. I still don’t, but it’s a damn good question. Continue reading Dear Therapist: How Does This Whole Forgiveness Thing Work Anyway?