When to Say, “I Love You,” According to a Therapist

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Relationship problems are one of the main reasons people seek out therapy. And there is no time in our lives more complicated than the beginning stages of a romantic relationship. Our goal is usually aimed at doing everything we can to maintain the relationship.

We spend a lot of energy trying not to scare the other person away, right? In the early stages of a relationship, we often find ourselves walking on eggshells. Sometimes we hide our true opinions and feelings in an effort to keep the peace. This can leave us confused about when we should say, “I love you”.

What if this scares your new boo away? What if you come off as “needy” or “desperate”? What if they don’t say it back?! Continue reading When to Say, “I Love You,” According to a Therapist

My Journey, as a Therapist, from In-Person to Online Therapy at Talkspace

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Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC and Talkspace Therapist

When I first heard about the idea of online counseling, I was skeptical. Talk therapy has a well-known reputation for being an in-person experience. You call and search for a therapist, and anxiously wait to meet with them in their office waiting room for the first session.

Their voice sounded nice on the phone, but you still aren’t sure what to make of them. Are they genuine? Are they the right match for you?

With online counseling you might also wonder: Could this be as effective as in-person therapy?

I’ve been a provider on the Talkspace platform for almost two years now and I admit I came in with a lot of trepidation about meeting clients on the platform. Could I be effective in this medium? Continue reading My Journey, as a Therapist, from In-Person to Online Therapy at Talkspace

Meet Our Therapists: Jor-El Caraballo

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Name: Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC
Licensing Info: NY MH 005427
Where you live: New York City!
Hometown: Kings Mountain, North Carolina
Amount of time working at Talkspace: 1 year, 5 months
Time working as a therapist: Almost 6 years

Why are you working in therapy/mental health?

I was always curious about what made people tick. As a very sensitive child, I was perceptive in picking up on people’s emotions. I also had to learn how to deal with my own feelings that were/are, at times, intense.

Once I was really able to delve into psychology in late high school, I knew it was the only way for me to go. Counseling was all about me taking an active role in helping people thrive using that background and knowledge. To me, there’s nothing better than that. Continue reading Meet Our Therapists: Jor-El Caraballo

Understanding the Lingering Impact of Trauma on Relationships

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“Someone who has experienced trauma also has gifts to offer all of us – in their depth, their knowledge of our universal vulnerability, and their experience of the power of compassion.”  – Sharon Salzberg, author and teacher.

– by Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC / Talkspace Therapist 

Understanding the Lingering Impact of Trauma on Relationships

It’s 7:10 PM and you’re anxiously waiting at the restaurant your partner has picked out for your weekly date night. You usually run a little late because you try on three different outfits before you leave, but tonight you arrived early for your 7 PM dinner reservation and have been waiting at the restaurant since 6:50 PM.

You want to show your partner that you’re committed to working on your punctuality. The server has stopped by several times to take your order, and you’ve grown increasingly uncomfortable as you wait for your partner.

Continue reading Understanding the Lingering Impact of Trauma on Relationships

Living with the Ghost of Anxiety

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, approximately 40 million Americans live with anxiety related disorders in United States each year, making anxiety one of the most prevalent mental health issues nationally.

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, approximately 40 million Americans live with anxiety related disorders in United States each year, making anxiety one of the most prevalent mental health issues nationally.

– by Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC / Talkspace Therapist 

Tons of people in the United States and beyond cope with moderate to severe anxiety issues. It goes without saying that the impact can be widely felt by those that surround them.

Continue reading Living with the Ghost of Anxiety

Breaking the Code of Silence: Black Americans and Mental Health

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Because of stigma, lack of access and several other factors, only one quarter of Black Americans seek mental health care. Understanding these reasons is the first step toward making a change.

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How To Best Support A Survivor of Sexual Assault

How To Best Support A Survivor of Sexual Assault

It can take years for some sexual assault survivors to even acknowledge their experience. Now, putting yourself in their shoes, imagine how difficult it must be to make yourself vulnerable enough to share your experience with another person.

Experiencing sexual assault is one of the most difficult things to live through for anyone. It’s estimated that 1.7% of men and 19.3% of women have been raped in their lifetimes, and these statistics are only based on cases that have been reported. Researchers believe the actual numbers are much higher. In the event that you know someone who has experienced sexual assault, here are some suggestions on how to best support him or her.

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6 Ways to Support a Transgender or Gender Nonconforming Person

6 Ways to Support a Transgender or Gender Nonconforming Person

It is revolutionary for any trans (transgender) person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist. ~ Laverne Cox

Over the past couple of years the transgender community has gained a higher level of mainstream exposure. This is in part thanks to the transgender men and women who helped fight for equality at New York City’s Stonewall Inn riots back in the1960s. They, among many other social influencers, paved the way into popular culture for transgender individuals like Cher’s son Chaz Bono, Laverne Cox on the hit Netflix show Orange is the New Black, as well as activists and authors like Janet Mock, who released last year’s Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More. Continue reading 6 Ways to Support a Transgender or Gender Nonconforming Person