Toxic Love: The Relationship that Almost Undid Me

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This piece is part of our Darkest Day series, a collection of stories from people who’ve made it through the worst of their illness and now light the way for others.

It must be possible to spend your early 20s in a way that doesn’t prompt later regret. Knowing what it feels like to be, say, 22, newly graduated from college, and recently moved in with a drop-out junk dealer boyfriend, it’s hard for me to imagine. Some people must have the strength of character, or luck, or some combination, to skip over the throwing-your-life-away-as-soon-as-it becomes-your-own stage of development. I’m curious about them.

When I was 22, I decided to throw my life away with the most unsuitable person I had met to date.

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Has Your Sex Life Simmered Down? Here’s How to Reignite The Passion

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Sparks fly and bodies meld when you’re having great sex. But what happens when it cools and morphs into a routine?

Sexual intimacy presents an opportunity for great connectivity, self discovery, pleasure and vivacity. But it can also be a source of loss, pain, fear and vulnerability. The typical reaction to these sides of sex is to withdraw and create walls.

What if instead, you chose to open up to the barriers you are hitting, including your own self-doubt or shame, fear of loss, long-term doubts about the relationship, or the jealousy and comparisons with past partners? Introspection and perpetual striving for new ways to connect and explore your essence as a sexual being, and that of your partner, is the key to increased intimacy and better sex.

Here are a few key mechanisms to maximize healthy sexuality, intimacy, connection and passion in deliberate and fun ways. Continue reading Has Your Sex Life Simmered Down? Here’s How to Reignite The Passion

Relationships: How to Avoid Relationship Bankruptcy!

Relationships How to Avoid Relationship Bankruptcy

For as long as I can remember, I’ve heard that all two people have to do to create and maintain a healthy relationship is to “improve their communication skills.”

– by Rick Macnamara, LCSW / Talkspace Therapist 

It’s almost a mantra by now, with couples coming to therapy repeating those words verbatim. But what if all the two people have to say to each other is how much they’ve grown to hate the other person’s guts? Continue reading Relationships: How to Avoid Relationship Bankruptcy!