Why You Shouldn’t Check Your Partner’s Phone

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As a therapist, I can’t tell you how many times clients come to me with information that they have gleaned from checking their partners’ phone. Some people will come in with screenshots of text conversations between their partner and others, hoping to dissect them to determine whether their partner was flirting or whether the conversation was just platonic.

Others come in with call records, telling me that it can’t be innocent when a partner calls a “friend” five times in a week. Some people fear that a significant other is cheating on them and comb through their partner’s email, looking for something that they can use as evidence of infidelity.

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The Best Way to Fight With Your Partner, According to a Therapist

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Fighting with your partner can be stressful, demoralizing, and scary. But fighting doesn’t have to be a source of such angst, and certainly doesn’t have to weaken your relationship. There are productive ways to argue with your partner and work through challenges that can bolster your connection and leave both people feeling better.

Of course, much of the difficulty of fighting comes down to each partner’s communication style. Sometimes, it’s not what we say — but how we say it — that leaves one or both partners feeling misunderstood, angry, and emotionally abandoned. Learning how to fight in a healthy way with your partner is much more important than trying to avoid fights in the first place.

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7 Fears You Might Have About Couples Counseling

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Couples counseling can strike fear into the hearts of many people. Couples might picture a therapist who judges them, allies with one partner over the other, gives couples unworkable or fluffy “solutions” to their problems or who means well but is a waste of time and money.

It’s unfortunate that so many couples feel this way. As a couples counselor, I have seen how couples can benefit greatly from counseling. Here is a rundown of some couples counseling fears and myths versus reality. It will help you decide whether or not to start counseling with your partner. Continue reading 7 Fears You Might Have About Couples Counseling

Relationships: The Expensive Cost of Infidelity

Relationships: The Expensive Cost of Infidelity

Let me begin by saying that typically infidelity is not the problem.

Infidelity is most often a symptom of a much larger issue within a relationship. For our purposes, we are going to define infidelity as a romantically involved person connecting with someone else – physically, emotionally, or both – like they would with their significant other. Continue reading Relationships: The Expensive Cost of Infidelity

Relationships: How to Avoid Relationship Bankruptcy!

Relationships How to Avoid Relationship Bankruptcy

For as long as I can remember, I’ve heard that all two people have to do to create and maintain a healthy relationship is to “improve their communication skills.”

– by Rick Macnamara, LCSW / Talkspace Therapist 

It’s almost a mantra by now, with couples coming to therapy repeating those words verbatim. But what if all the two people have to say to each other is how much they’ve grown to hate the other person’s guts? Continue reading Relationships: How to Avoid Relationship Bankruptcy!

Everything You Need to Know About Couples Therapy

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We all know romantic relationships are hard work. Like cars, they require regular maintenance to keep them running well. If there is a problem, it’s best to have it repaired right away to avoid further complications down the road.

Often we can do some of the basic maintenance and repairs ourselves. Other times, despite our best efforts, we need to rely on a professional to take a look and give us a hand.

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