Fighting with your partner can be stressful, demoralizing, and scary. But fighting doesn’t have to be a source of such angst, and certainly doesn’t have to weaken your relationship. There are productive ways to argue with your partner and work through challenges that can bolster your connection and leave both people feeling better.
Of course, much of the difficulty of fighting comes down to each partner’s communication style. Sometimes, it’s not what we say — but how we say it — that leaves one or both partners feeling misunderstood, angry, and emotionally abandoned. Learning how to fight in a healthy way with your partner is much more important than trying to avoid fights in the first place.
Continue reading The Best Way to Fight With Your Partner, According to a Therapist
Couples counseling can strike fear into the hearts of many people. Couples might picture a therapist who judges them, allies with one partner over the other, gives couples unworkable or fluffy “solutions” to their problems or who means well but is a waste of time and money.
It’s unfortunate that so many couples feel this way. As a couples counselor, I have seen how couples can benefit greatly from counseling. Here is a rundown of some couples counseling fears and myths versus reality. It will help you decide whether or not to start counseling with your partner. Continue reading 7 Fears You Might Have About Couples Counseling
The holiday season can be a wonderful time of closeness with loved ones, but it also causes a lot of stress for many couples. Couples counseling can provide a safe space to work through many common issues that plague couples during the pressure-filled holiday season.
If you are in counseling, some of these issues might resonate with you. Maybe you can raise them in upcoming sessions. If you’re not seeing a therapist, and any of these issues have led to significant conflict in your relationship, it could be time to schedule an appointment with a counselor who can help you work through these concerns. Continue reading 4 Issues That Come Up In Couples Counseling During The Holidays
Let me begin by saying that typically infidelity is not the problem.
Infidelity is most often a symptom of a much larger issue within a relationship. For our purposes, we are going to define infidelity as a romantically involved person connecting with someone else – physically, emotionally, or both – like they would with their significant other. Continue reading Relationships: The Expensive Cost of Infidelity
For as long as I can remember, I’ve heard that all two people have to do to create and maintain a healthy relationship is to “improve their communication skills.”
– by Rick Macnamara, LCSW / Talkspace Therapist
It’s almost a mantra by now, with couples coming to therapy repeating those words verbatim. But what if all the two people have to say to each other is how much they’ve grown to hate the other person’s guts? Continue reading Relationships: How to Avoid Relationship Bankruptcy!
We all know romantic relationships are hard work. Like cars, they require regular maintenance to keep them running well. If there is a problem, it’s best to have it repaired right away to avoid further complications down the road.
Often we can do some of the basic maintenance and repairs ourselves. Other times, despite our best efforts, we need to rely on a professional to take a look and give us a hand.
Continue reading Everything You Need to Know About Couples Therapy