Fear of Change: Why Life Adjustments are Difficult for You

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The fear of change is one of the most common fears that people face. I see it frequently among my therapy clients, and just as frequently among friends.

Change is difficult for everyone; there are few people that don’t feel somewhat anxious at the prospect of a major upheaval in their lives. The problem comes when fear of change keeps people paralyzed in situations that are not healthy or fulfilling, or when their fear of change isn’t confined to significant changes, but encompasses relatively minor, daily changes in routine.

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How Staying in a Job You Hate Affects Your Mental Health

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When it comes to your career, there is nothing worse than a job you hate, literally.

According to a University of Manchester study, having a “poor quality” job — a job you hate — is actually worse for your mental health than having no job at all. It may sound hard to believe until you’ve been there — hostile co-workers, a passive-aggressive boss, or mind-numbing assignments. Not to mention we often spend 40 or more hours a week invested in our job, and that’s a lot of time to spend in a bad situation.

For the 51% of Americans employed full-time who reported to Gallup in 2017 that they’re uninterested in their jobs and the 16% who dislike their workplace, staying at a job you hate is bad news for your mental health. Here’s why.

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Dear Therapist: I Am So Tired, Can We Reschedule?

Dear Therapist: I Am So Tired, Can We Reschedule?

Some responsibilities –  whether they are personal, social, or professional  – shouldn’t be put on the back burner when we’re tired. And that includes therapy.

– by Anonymous Talkspace User

Things have been really hectic over the last month. For one, it’s birthday season. I find myself running around the city, attending different parties and buying amusing gifts for many of my friends and family. But even though I’m happy to be there for the people in my life, certain aspects of this time are a little difficult to deal with. For example, I occasionally end up having to make inevitable small talk with strangers in dark clubs filled with drunken college students and blasting music. I find it very tiring. Continue reading Dear Therapist: I Am So Tired, Can We Reschedule?