Holiday Suicide is a Myth — And an Opportunity for Awareness

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The popular notion of suicide rates spiking around the holidays is a myth, according to years of data the Center for Disease Control and Prevention [CDC] collected. Suicides rates are actually lowest during December and peak in the spring. The media perpetuates this myth, but it isn’t the worst kind of lie.

Suicide awareness and prevention is a conversation we should be having during all seasons, so why not take advantage of the media’s holiday blues invention? It’s a chance to look out for the people we care about and be proactive rather than waiting until spring. Riding the wave of media coverage will allow you to reach more people via social media as well. Continue reading Holiday Suicide is a Myth — And an Opportunity for Awareness

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Are You Making A Hell Of Heaven?

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The poet John Milton, in his epic poem “Paradise Lost” (1667), stated — through the voice of his character Satan — “the Mind is its own place and, in itself can make a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven.”

I can think of no better or more eloquent statement to summarize the teachings of cognitive behavioral therapy [CBT]. CBT operates on the premise that our thinking is the precursor to moods and emotions, which is then the basis for a lot of behaviors, both heavenly and hellish. It is not the outer event that makes us feel any particular way but how we interpret and evaluate that event that makes us feel happy or sad, depressed or joyful, frightened or safe, energized or lethargic.

Cognitive behavioral therapy is not positive thinking. It is more about realistic thinking. Continue reading Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Are You Making A Hell Of Heaven?

Why Do People Become Therapists? Talkspace Answers!

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If you see a therapist, chances are he or she will be interested in helping you live a better life rather than “figuring you out.” We learned this when we asked the hundreds of therapists in our network why they pursued therapy. Some also chose to share why they work for Talkspace specifically.

Keep reading to understand why people become therapists. If you feel one response speaks to you more than any other, that person might be the therapist for you! Continue reading Why Do People Become Therapists? Talkspace Answers!

Don’t Forget to Thank the Most Important Person in Your Life: You

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Paul hated the holidays. It wasn’t only keeping up with appearances. Paul couldn’t keep up with his mind and feelings.

When our minds are racing, we get angry and scared and try to rescue ourselves by “snapping out of it.” But what if doing that shoves us on to the treadmill of our thoughts and emotions?

If you feel like you can’t keep up, how about taking a little time to give thanks. Gratitude actually takes us to a place of safety. Too often, we give thanks for other people and what we have. Perhaps this year, we could cultivate gratitude for ourselves. Here are some questions to reflect on. Continue reading Don’t Forget to Thank the Most Important Person in Your Life: You

The Thanksgiving Dichotomy: Gratitude vs. Stress [Infographic]

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At Thanksgiving, there are things you are incredibly grateful for: an excuse to gorge yourself on delicious treats; time off from work; reuniting with the friends and family members you love.

And then there are the things you need to pretend to be thankful for: that relative who always asks why you’re still single or when you’ll have children; that dry, flavorless stuffing you’re expected to eat and praise every. single. year; perhaps driving to multiple celebrations in the same day.

Thanksgiving presents a challenge: feeling gratitude has proven mental health benefits, but certain parts of this holiday can be so taxing. Read on to find a middle ground. Continue reading The Thanksgiving Dichotomy: Gratitude vs. Stress [Infographic]

Has Your Sex Life Simmered Down? Here’s How to Reignite The Passion

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Sparks fly and bodies meld when you’re having great sex. But what happens when it cools and morphs into a routine?

Sexual intimacy presents an opportunity for great connectivity, self discovery, pleasure and vivacity. But it can also be a source of loss, pain, fear and vulnerability. The typical reaction to these sides of sex is to withdraw and create walls.

What if instead, you chose to open up to the barriers you are hitting, including your own self-doubt or shame, fear of loss, long-term doubts about the relationship, or the jealousy and comparisons with past partners? Introspection and perpetual striving for new ways to connect and explore your essence as a sexual being, and that of your partner, is the key to increased intimacy and better sex.

Here are a few key mechanisms to maximize healthy sexuality, intimacy, connection and passion in deliberate and fun ways. Continue reading Has Your Sex Life Simmered Down? Here’s How to Reignite The Passion

Meeting Your Online Date In-Person: 5 Tips to Get Through It

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What happens when your dating pool is disappointing or you have trouble asking people out in person? You turn to online dating of course!

Online dating makes it easy to talk to people, but eventually you have to meet them in-person and carry on a conversation. You’ve got game when you’re typing back and forth on the computer, but face-to-face you might be nervous and not know what to say to keep the conversation flowing. It can be awkward.

As a therapist at Talkspace who listens to relationship and dating problems, I recognize the affects it can have on people. It might cause anxiety and uncertainty when transitioning from an online relationship to a face-to-face date. Although these feelings are common, it should not prevent you from taking the next step. I have written a few pointers on how to have a great first date with someone you met online. Continue reading Meeting Your Online Date In-Person: 5 Tips to Get Through It

The Complete Online Dating Guide for Women

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For the millions of women who are not lucky enough to encounter Mr. or Mrs. Right on the street or in their social circles, online dating is the go-to. We use all sorts of online resources to find the best flight or restaurants, so why not put in the work to find something more important: love? Online dating is also a great way to date casually and meet interesting people you would not encounter in your daily life.

Nonetheless, online dating can be frustrating, especially for women who — more often than men — have to deal with rude messages, fake profiles, scams and more. This guide will show you how to win at online dating so you can meet the best people, have fun and avoid compromising situations. Continue reading The Complete Online Dating Guide for Women

Long-Distance Relationships: How to Survive and Thrive in the LDR

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So, you were out with friends one night and met someone amazing – fantastic! But wait, the person lives in another city, state or country. Sad face. How’s that going to work?

Having recently been in a temporary long-distance relationship myself, I realized it’s a whole different ballgame from when I was in college 20 years ago (OK, maybe 25). Back then it was a phone call on Sunday and Wednesday and monthly visits. Now there’s social media and all kinds of ways to stay connected, so I decided to crowdsource best practices. I heard a lot of great things — some old school and some new but all relevant and helpful. Continue reading Long-Distance Relationships: How to Survive and Thrive in the LDR

How to Encourage Your Loved One to Start Therapy

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There is still a lot of stigma surrounding mental health issues in the U.S. and abroad, despite the efforts of platforms such as Talkspace that aim to help everyone achieve mental wellness. The good news is, due to social media campaigns such as #EndtheStigma, there is a greater conversation going on about mental health. This opens the door for meaningful dialogue about how to live with the most challenging feelings.

With growing mainstream exposure of mental health issues and therapy, many of us are becoming more attuned to the impact of psychological issues on ourselves and those around us. With a greater sense of awareness, more people are seeking therapy for themselves and promoting mental health care to their loved ones.

One of the most difficult things to witness is having a loved one who is suffering in silence and desperately needs help. It can be difficult to know how to help your loved one access the services and treatment they need to get better. Read on for our suggestions to help your loved one begin therapy. Continue reading How to Encourage Your Loved One to Start Therapy