Self-Awareness Will Make Your Life Better: Here’s How to Get It

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Self-awareness is an extremely pivotal trait to possess in life, and way too often we overlook its value. When you become self-aware, you become conscious of your problems and emotions. And the sooner you are aware of those, the sooner you can work toward fixing them. Continue reading Self-Awareness Will Make Your Life Better: Here’s How to Get It

Want to Know Why These People Ghosted You?

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No matter how hard we try to forget them, we want to know more about the people who permanently cut us out of their lives suddenly and without explanation — the people who “ghost” on us.

Why did they do it? Was it something we did?

You might never hear from those people, but listening to the hard truth from anyone who ghosted will provide valuable insights.

It’s more complicated than cowardice. Ghosting alone does not make someone a horrible person, and there are many reasons why people ghost. Understanding them might be what you need to move on. Continue reading Want to Know Why These People Ghosted You?

Use Boundaries to Keep Your Individuality When You Fall in Love

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Falling in love and building a relationship is wonderful, but it can destroy individuality if you’re not careful. Expressing boundaries will help you maintain your individuality and a healthy relationship.

A relationship can create an all-encompassing, overwhelmingly positive feeling. During the initial stages people often call an “infatuation phase,” boundaries melt and dissolve. We merge together. Our life becomes theirs, theirs ours. We lose ourselves. Continue reading Use Boundaries to Keep Your Individuality When You Fall in Love

Should You Forgive Someone for Cheating?

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When someone cheats on you, your mind and emotions scream at you to hate, punish and never forgive. It’s hard to let go of those feelings.

Nonetheless, forgiving someone for cheating will actually benefit the faithful person more than the cheater. The anger we feel after infidelity is like a poison that lives in us. Forgiveness is the antidote and the only way to move on.

You should try to forgive someone for cheating, but only once you understand what forgiveness means and how you can achieve it. Continue reading Should You Forgive Someone for Cheating?

Should You Forgive Someone for Cheating?

A couple walking with the man on his phone

When someone cheats on you, your mind and emotions scream at you to hate, punish and never forgive. It’s hard to let go of those feelings.

Nonetheless, forgiving someone for cheating will actually benefit the faithful person more than the cheater. The anger we feel after infidelity is like a poison that lives in us. Forgiveness is the antidote and the only way to move on.

You should try to forgive someone for cheating, but only once you understand what forgiveness means and how you can achieve it. Continue reading Should You Forgive Someone for Cheating?

What Would a Therapist Say About Donald Trump?

Check out the second part of our series if you’re interested in seeing Bernie Sanders’ psychological profile!

Presidential election campaigns generally resemble a cross between a circus and a mud-fight. That’s fine, as it’s better for democracy if the candidates fight it out down in the mud — where everyone can see them — than behind closed doors, where they can get up to no good.

But this year, the grandstanding and childish hurling of insults has reached fever pitch with the appearance of Trump on the Republican campaign trail. His outspoken rhetoric has managed to offend immigrants and women, alienate Fox News (his natural supporters) and cause a possibly fatal split in the Republican party.

At the same time, Trump’s penchant for saying what he thinks and casting political correctness to the side has won him a legion of followers. His initial 3% of the national Republican vote has grown to 31%, giving him an 18% lead over his nearest rival, Texas senator Ted Cruz.

As part of a series on the personalities of the presidential candidates in the 2016 election, we decided to address the question everyone is asking: Does Donald Trump have the personality of a capable president? Continue reading What Would a Therapist Say About Donald Trump?

Here’s Why You Failed Your New Year’s Resolutions (And How to Succeed Next Time)

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The New Year has barely started and people everywhere are starry eyed and ready to begin anew. We have our grocery-shopping lists done and new gym clothes hung and ready for wear. We hit the ground running, quite literally, for about a month. We begin to see some progress and are excited by the possibilities.

Then, out of nowhere, our grand plans come screeching to a halt. In an exhausted and disappointed haze we declare, “Maybe next year” as we fall into the same old routines.

“I have really been screwing up. I don’t understand why this always happens,” my Talkspace client, Emily, texts me around dinner time on a Sunday.

Note: Out therapists obtain permission from clients before featuring them in stories and change their names to protect privacy. 

Continue reading Here’s Why You Failed Your New Year’s Resolutions (And How to Succeed Next Time)

How to Tell if Someone is Judging You: Defining Judgment

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The words “judge” and “judgment” have negative connotations and tend to place people in a no-win situation. You don’t want to be judged, yet you want to be able to tell if someone is judging you. Even when we know discovering the truth might hurt, curiosity wins.

Judgment, however, is not necessarily something to worry about. There are positive, neutral and negative forms of it. Whether it’s therapy or an actual courtroom, the key is understanding which one you are dealing with and learning how to respond. Continue reading How to Tell if Someone is Judging You: Defining Judgment

Postpartum Depression: A Quick Guide for Tired New Moms

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Despite all the work mental health professionals have done to break down the stigma of postpartum depression, society keeps shoving a message in the face of a new mom: having a baby is the best thing in the world.

“Are you loving being a mom?”, “Isn’t it just the best thing ever?” and “Treasure this time” are all phrases a new mom will hear in the first weeks of her baby’s life. It can leave her wondering what she is missing, what she is doing wrong.

Well-meaning friends, family and ever-present social media can place pressure on new mothers. This can morph into a belief that if you are not loving your newborn who is screaming for no apparent reason, waking up ten times a night and pooping all over you, there must be something wrong with you. Add that pressure to the out-of-whack hormones coursing through a woman’s body and you have a recipe for postpartum depression. Continue reading Postpartum Depression: A Quick Guide for Tired New Moms