Are you dreading the holidays? Chances are it’s because every year your family stresses you out when all you’re trying to do is take a break from the stress of work. It’s especially bad if seeing your family evokes painful memories and dredges issues you would rather save for a therapist.
To help you manage this stress, here are six tips for staying calm and dealing with the most challenging members of your family. They might reduce that holiday dread.
1. Set Boundaries
Sometimes family members upset us frequently to the point where we have a rough idea of how long it takes for them to stress us out. Do you know what your limit us? If so, make sure you can say goodbye to your family before approaching that limit. Tell them your time frame ahead of the reunion so they can manage their expectations. This will also help you avoid hurting their feelings.
If you don’t know what your limit is, try to be careful and figure it out for next time. For now air on the conservative side.
Name: Jennifer K. Fuller Licensing Info: Licensed Professional Counselor [LPC] in OK #4972, Certified Traumatologist Where you live: Tulsa, OK Amount of time working at Talkspace: two years Time working as a therapist: seven years
Why are you working in therapy/mental health?
I love connecting with people and I was born a very empathetic person. The field of psychology and the human mind fascinate me. It always made sense to me to be working in this field.
But I like to think no matter what job I were to work in I would still be impacting other people’s lives. We all have something to offer one another. That can be done whether you are a therapist, a custodian, a musician, a stay at home mom, entrepreneur, anything.
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By sharing stories that humanize and normalize mental illness, This Is My Brave is empowering people to be open about mental illness and seek treatment. We are excited to help them further this amazing and important work.
Part of Talkspace’s mission is combatting the stigma of mental illness and therapy. Many of our clients have stories about how stigma has been in a burden in their lives. By supporting This Is My Brave, we can put stories like theirs on stage.
Therapy can be daunting. Even if you’re considering working with a psychotherapist, you might not know much or anything about the therapeutic process.
Like all clients, you will want to make progress so you can live a happier life and develop cognitive skills that will help you cope with various challenges. It can seem like a shot in the dark, though. What if you have no idea what the journey will be like or what you need to do?
Name: Kendra Simpson Licensing Info: Licensed Clinical Social Worker [LCSW], Licensed Independent Substance Abuse Counselor [LISAC]
Where you live: Arizona Hometown: Michigan Amount of time working at Talkspace: almost two years Time working as a Therapist: 15 years
Why are you working in therapy/mental health?
I’ve known I wanted to be a therapist since middle school. I began working in this field because I felt an innate drive to help others and had a huge curiosity toward the human mind and human behavior.
Over time, however, I have begun to realize this work grants me knowledge beyond what I imagined. Most recently I am reminded that despite all the negativity we are exposed to in this world, I get to interact with positive, hopeful, brave and courageous people each and every day! Continue reading Meet Our Therapists: Kendra Simpson
I once had a woman come into my office who had been referred from another provider. She was seeking therapy and had tried many times over the years, but she had a difficult time opening up and trusting counselors.
Being diagnosed with HIV is no longer the end of a life. For those with access to appropriate treatment, being HIV positive is the beginning of a life with different challenges.
As a psychotherapist, I have seen how these challenges affect the mental health of those who live with HIV. Using my experience, I outlined the mental health issues these people tend to deal with. By learning about them, you can — if you live with HIV — improve your mental health or more effectively support people who live with HIV. Continue reading The Mental Health Issues People Living with HIV Deal With
Imagine you suddenly had sole responsibility for two children, earned around $26,000 a year, found your friends drifting away, and continually felt judged for your parenting, no matter how well you handled it.
Welcome to the life of a typical single mom.
As the founder of ESME.com (Empowering Solo Moms Everywhere), I’m astounded by the resilience and fortitude of single moms, who currently are raising 23 million children in the United States alone. The route women take to single motherhood varies, but parenting alone is physically and emotionally demanding. For some single moms, it can take a toll on their mental health. Continue reading 8 Mental Health Challenges Single Moms Face
It’s going to happen. You’re praying it doesn’t, but it’s inevitable.
During Thanksgiving, one of your relatives is going to bring up post-election politics. If your family members have opposing political views, this could be the beginning of a terrible evening. Your annoying uncle might say Trump isn’t so bad, which spurs your equally annoying aunt into going on a rant about how your uncle hates women.
A few minutes later everyone is shouting and arguing about issues and people you are sick of hearing about: Trump, his cabinet, Hillary, her emails, the electoral college, Bernie Sanders, Obamacare, 2020 and much more. There’s a chance someone will rope you in and pressure you to take a stance in front of the whole family.