Falling in love and building a relationship is wonderful, but it can destroy individuality if you’re not careful. Expressing boundaries will help you maintain your individuality and a healthy relationship.
A relationship can create an all-encompassing, overwhelmingly positive feeling. During the initial stages people often call an “infatuation phase,” boundaries melt and dissolve. We merge together. Our life becomes theirs, theirs ours. We lose ourselves. Continue reading Use Boundaries to Keep Your Individuality When You Fall in Love
When someone cheats on you, your mind and emotions scream at you to hate, punish and never forgive. It’s hard to let go of those feelings.
Nonetheless, forgiving someone for cheating will actually benefit the faithful person more than the cheater. The anger we feel after infidelity is like a poison that lives in us. Forgiveness is the antidote and the only way to move on.
You should try to forgive someone for cheating, but only once you understand what forgiveness means and how you can achieve it. Continue reading Should You Forgive Someone for Cheating?
Check out the second part of our series if you’re interested in seeing Bernie Sanders’ psychological profile!
Presidential election campaigns generally resemble a cross between a circus and a mud-fight. That’s fine, as it’s better for democracy if the candidates fight it out down in the mud — where everyone can see them — than behind closed doors, where they can get up to no good.
But this year, the grandstanding and childish hurling of insults has reached fever pitch with the appearance of Trump on the Republican campaign trail. His outspoken rhetoric has managed to offend immigrants and women, alienate Fox News (his natural supporters) and cause a possibly fatal split in the Republican party.
At the same time, Trump’s penchant for saying what he thinks and casting political correctness to the side has won him a legion of followers. His initial 3% of the national Republican vote has grown to 31%, giving him an 18% lead over his nearest rival, Texas senator Ted Cruz.
As part of a series on the personalities of the presidential candidates in the 2016 election, we decided to address the question everyone is asking: Does Donald Trump have the personality of a capable president? Continue reading What Would a Therapist Say About Donald Trump?
The New Year has barely started and people everywhere are starry eyed and ready to begin anew. We have our grocery-shopping lists done and new gym clothes hung and ready for wear. We hit the ground running, quite literally, for about a month. We begin to see some progress and are excited by the possibilities.
Then, out of nowhere, our grand plans come screeching to a halt. In an exhausted and disappointed haze we declare, “Maybe next year” as we fall into the same old routines.
“I have really been screwing up. I don’t understand why this always happens,” my Talkspace client, Emily, texts me around dinner time on a Sunday.
Note: Out therapists obtain permission from clients before featuring them in stories and change their names to protect privacy.
Continue reading Here’s Why You Failed Your New Year’s Resolutions (And How to Succeed Next Time)
The words “judge” and “judgment” have negative connotations and tend to place people in a no-win situation. You don’t want to be judged, yet you want to be able to tell if someone is judging you. Even when we know discovering the truth might hurt, curiosity wins.
Judgment, however, is not necessarily something to worry about. There are positive, neutral and negative forms of it. Whether it’s therapy or an actual courtroom, the key is understanding which one you are dealing with and learning how to respond. Continue reading How to Tell if Someone is Judging You: Defining Judgment
Despite all the work mental health professionals have done to break down the stigma of postpartum depression, society keeps shoving a message in the face of a new mom: having a baby is the best thing in the world.
“Are you loving being a mom?”, “Isn’t it just the best thing ever?” and “Treasure this time” are all phrases a new mom will hear in the first weeks of her baby’s life. It can leave her wondering what she is missing, what she is doing wrong.
Well-meaning friends, family and ever-present social media can place pressure on new mothers. This can morph into a belief that if you are not loving your newborn who is screaming for no apparent reason, waking up ten times a night and pooping all over you, there must be something wrong with you. Add that pressure to the out-of-whack hormones coursing through a woman’s body and you have a recipe for postpartum depression. Continue reading Postpartum Depression: A Quick Guide for Tired New Moms
We all know postpartum depression is a serious issue, but many people do not know about peripartum depression: symptoms of depression during pregnancy, especially in the weeks approaching birth.
Roughly one in five women experience an episode of depression during pregnancy or in the year after giving birth, according to a report by the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality [AHRQ]. About half of these women have “serious symptoms,” The New York Times reported.
The U.S. Preventative Services Task Force [USPSTF] issued a recommendation in The Journal of the American Medical Association that urges primary care doctors to implement depression screenings for pregnant women. These screenings will improve depression symptoms by encouraging women to proactively seek treatments such as psychotherapy, the USPSTF said. They involve questionnaires and scales designed to evaluate symptoms of depression. Continue reading It’s Time to Screen All Pregnant Women for Depression
Taking care of our mental health requires a 360-degree approach to our overall wellness. It’s important to look at everything you can do to feel well and healthy.
“Food is the most widely abused anti-anxiety drug in America, and exercise is the most potent yet underutilized antidepressant” – Bill Phillips, Author and Entrepreneur
Here are the top five benefits of exercise that will have you lacing up your sneakers before you read the final sentence. Continue reading 5 Ways Exercise Is Great for Your Mental Health
We often believe we are at the mercy of situations and events. The long line at the bank made us upset. What that person said got us depressed. There are so many situations in our lives that have the power to make us feel happy or sad, angry or calm.
And yet, is that really what is happening? Does the situation actually control our moods and emotions? Continue reading Take Control of Your Emotions with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Quick Note from Talkspace: Because we provide online messaging therapy, we frequently hear from potential clients who want to be sure they are chatting with a therapist, not a chatbot. All of our therapists are licensed, flesh and blood humans, but we understand the concern. Whether it’s online therapy, social media or online dating, everyone deserves to chat with the humans they believe they are connecting with. We made this guide so people can answer the big question: Bot or not?
When we message with people on the Internet, we deserve to know they are, well, people. In a time where bots drive more than 60% of web traffic, it’s reasonable for consumers to be wary of chatbots masquerading as humans.
This variety of bot talks with you on sites such as Tinder and Facebook. Programmers design chatbots to simulate real conversation long enough to convince you to buy something, click on a link or offer personal information.
The key to detecting and reporting them is understanding how they work in various contexts. Then you can exploit their weaknesses and out them as robots! Continue reading How To Tell If You’re Talking to a Bot: The Complete Guide to Chatbots