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Relationship is complicated - some advice

Public forum moderated by therapist Nicole Amesbury, MS, LMHC
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bluphoenix: I'm dating someone and I'm finding myself feeling codependent on the relationship. I'm scared because I think the relationship might be ending. I love the person and he loves me back but I don't believe that we are in love with each other. He has always had open relationships and I have not. He said he would be committed to just me but I don't trus read more
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Nicole Amesbury, MS, LMHC (therapist): Hi bluphoenix: Thanks for reaching out to me. It sounds like you have started compromising what you want because you are attached to him. This is creating a lot of discomfort, insecurity and anxiety for you. When was the last time you just felt fun and cared for in this relationship?
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bluphoenix: Things change so fast in this relationship. In the beginning he payed so much attention to me. Constantly wanting me by his side. He wouldn't let me leave. It's been about two months ago that I have felt cared for. We've only been dating for 5mos. He's fallen on some hardship lately and it has brought stress to the relationship. I have helped him read more
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Nicole Amesbury, MS, LMHC (therapist): This does sound concerning and I would like to hear more about two things you mention. You say that you feel he resents you, but that you have been helping him all this time. How does he show you that he resents you?

Also, can you tell me more about this female friend?
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